Why was their behavior been brought to my attention at this time versus any other time? Why does this even matter to me that people want to blame someone else for the choices they have made? It has been brought to my attention because there is a message in this for me and it’s my task to define what that message is.
So I began by doing some soul searching and exploring my choices in the recent past. Did I regret anything, did I blame someone else for a choice I have made and lastly, did I feel that I had no control over a situation?
I have had some major changes happen to me in the past 6 months. I have experienced growth and loss both spiritually and personally. Some were expected and some not so expected. I thought about this for a very long time. I explored a lot of different emotions and went over alternative outcomes that may have happened had I made different choices. I also spent time in meditation and asked for insight from my higher-self and guides.
What I finally came to understand is quite freeing. I recognize and accept the consequences, both positive and negative of the actions or inactions of my choices. Following my own path is not always easy and I can’t please everyone. Other people’s paths/destinies are not dependent upon mine. I can’t be defined or put a value on myself based on what others seem to feel or think about me. I won’t allow someone to exert their “will” over me because they have a strong opinion about how I should act, react or even who I should be.
The message is definitely for me and is very useful in my quest to release negative thought patterns that I hold on to. I need to let go of caring what other people’s opinions are of me. This isn’t the first time I have heard this, but it is my intention that this will be the last time. I was just once again reminded of this in a class I attended at Wells Sunset Spiritualist Church by Rev. Charles Cox. I had filed the information away and just as Scarlet O’Hara would say, “Well I won't think about this now. I'll think about it tomorrow”. I was waiting on tomorrow to deal with it. As with many messages I receive from spirit, they have a way of presenting themselves to me again and again until I act upon the information given to me. Tomorrow is today and it is time for me to take down the green velvet curtains I have been hiding behind and make myself a new dress! (Scarlet O’Hara has many great words of wisdom to live by.)
I am going to go within and access the higher laws of the heart. I will work on letting go of concerns about others’ opinions and trust my own higher wisdom and inner feelings versus what my brain is telling me. My final authority will be to trust the “counsel of my own heart”. I’m going to have faith that my deepest feelings will guide me precisely to the lessons I’m here to learn. Every day I will remember that Spirit shines through me and everyone else. I will forgive myself for my mistakes and I will not take opinions too seriously, (mine or anyone else’s). I will let my mind surrender to the wisdom of my heart.
“We can only get in touch with our own source of intuition and wisdom when we no longer depend upon others’ opinions for our sense of identity or worth; we all tend to worship something; the questions is, will we worship the god of opinion, or the god of our heart?”
-Dan Millman, author of “The Life You Were Born to Live”
(Here is an exercise I have been working with from the book mentioned above)
1. Visualize yourself walking along a path through a forest, striding forward with purpose and direction, appreciating the beauty around you, but headed for a specific destination. Feel your sense of purpose and direction.
2. To your right and left, you see people calling to you, criticizing and correcting you: “That’s the wrong way”, “You are no better than ______”. “You’ll never be able to do it”, “You think you are above others.” “You don’t know what you are talking about.”, “You aren’t good enough to do what I do.” “You are not a very nice person.” “You are so negative I can’t be around you.” etc… Feel yourself completely free of all these opinions. Continue on, your destination being clear of your purpose.
3. You come to a fork in the road. Several people from your present life, people you often rely on, share their opinions with you. You nod in acknowledgment, and then wait for a deep inner sense; you look at one path, then at the other, as people yell out their opinions. “Go left!” “No, that’s crazy; take the right path!” You receive an internal confirmation, subtle but genuine, to take one path or the other. You take that path, your life path, and walk on, guided by the god of your heart.
If you feel you have issue with this as well, I hope that I can inspire you to work on following the god of your heart. I have yet to master this, but it will be something that I will continue to work on.